January 13, 2010

Recently read:

"Advice columnist Ann Landers once gave some helpful advice regarding the work marriage involves. One of her readers lamented the unrealistic ideas many girls had of marriage, beseeching, 'Why don't you level with them, Ann?' Landers replied:

I have leveled with the girls -- from Anchorage to Amarillo.
I tell them that all marriages are happy.
It's the living together afterward that's tough.
I tell them that a good marriage is not a gift,
It's an achievement.
That marriage is not for kids. It takes guts and maturity.
It separates the men from the boys and the women from the girls.
I tell them that marriage is tested daily by the ability to compromise.
Its survival can depend on being smart enough to know what's worth fighting about.
Or making an issue of or even mentioning.
Marriage is giving -- and more important, it's forgiving.
And it is almost always the wife who must do these things.
Then, as if that were not enough, she must be willing to forget what she forgave.
Often that is the hardest part.
Oh, I have leveled all right.
If they don't get my message, Buster,
It's because they don't want to get it.
Rose-colored glasses are never made in bifocals
Because nobody wants to read the small print in dreams."

I think with my age and all the seasonal love going around, people need to remind themselves of these things... Especially girls. If we get the reality of marriage in our heads, we will be able to walk into our next relationships with a clear prospective. It's going to be hard work which makes me grateful for this time being single to prepare my heart and attitude. Plus, I am still needing to work on friendships and relationships with my family. If I can't serve them, how could I serve a husband?

I never wanted to really write about boys on here, but... I'm excited to see who God puts in my life and am going to patiently wait. Patience isn't my strongest trait and obviously God wants to work on that, so here we go.


britta said...

oh Katie, you have no idea how much I needed to see that.

thanks a bunch!

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